"Working to break the

cycle of abuse in

our community"

Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Services

Office

541-963-7226

24-Hr Hotline

541-963-9261

Abuse

A  pattern of abusive behavior that can happen in any relationship, in which one partner tries to maintain control over the other by using physical, psychological, verbal, and/or sexual violence.

  • Hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking
  • Strangling
  • Burning
  • Throwing objects
  • Disrupting sleep
  • Property destruction
  • Forcing sex
  • Forcing activities
  • Unwanted touching
  • Contraceptive control
  • Drug and alcohol facilitated unwanted sexual contact
  • Name calling
  • Put-downs/Insults
  • Mind games
  • Isolation
  • Intimidation
  • Extreme moods
  • Silent treatment
  • Sexual jokes
  • Harassment
  • Accusations
  • Extreme jealousy
  • Having affairs
  • Not allowed to work or go to school
  • Purposefully ruining your credit
  • Monitoring your spending
  • Limiting access to your own money or financial resources
  • Limiting access to your shared money or financial resources
  • Withholding basic necessities (e.g. food, clothing, medications, shelter)
  • Is a crime
  • Happens to many people
  • Can be dangerous
  • Is harmful and intrusive
  • Can happen to anyone
  • Can occur during, after, or in the absence of a relationship
  • Technology can be used to stalk
  • Follow you and show up wherever you are
  • Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or emails
  • Damage your home, car, or other property
  • Monitor your phone calls or computer use
  • Use technology, like hidden cameras or global position systems (GPS), to track where you go
  • Drive by or hang out at your home, school, or work
  • Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets
  • Posting info or spreading rumors about you on the web
  • 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime
  • Men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults in the U.S
  • No victim is to blame for any occurrence of domestic assault
  • Domestic violence is the third leading cause of homelessness among families
  • Women ages 18 to 34 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence
  • More than 4 million women experience physical assault and rape by their partners
  • In 2 out of 3 female homicide cases, females are killed by a family member or intimate partner
  • 1 in 5 women (20%) will be sexually assaulted while at college
  • 4% of college men will be sexually assaulted
  • Most victims are assaulted by someone they know
  • 42% of college women who are raped tell no one about the assault
  • It is estimated that only 5% of sexual assaults on college campus are reported, making sexual assault the most unreported crime
  • Rape results in about 32,000 pregnancies each year
  • 42% of raped women expect to be raped again
  • Rape survivors are 13 times more likely to attempt suicide

General warning signs of domestic abuse

  • Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner
  • Go along with everything their partner says and does
  • Check in often with their partner to report where they are and what they’re doing
  • Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner
  • Talk about their partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness
  • Have frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents”
  • Frequently miss work, school, or social occasions, without explanation
  • Dress in clothing designed to hide bruises or scars (e.g. wearing long sleeves in the summer or sunglasses indoors)
  • Restricted from seeing family and friends
  • Rarely go out in public without their partner
  • Have limited access to money, credit cards, or the car
  • Have very low self-esteem, even if they used to be confident
  • Show major personality changes
  • Be anxious, depressed, or suicidal

Crisis Line

Our 24-hour crisis line is safe and confidential. It is operated by staff and trained volunteers who will be able to provide accurate information regarding domestic violence, sexual assault, dating violence, stalking, along with appropriate referrals and safety planning. We accept collect calls. 541-963-9261

Local Resources

Office

541-963-7226

24-Hr Hotline

541-963-9261

La Grande Police Department &
Union County Sheriff’s Office

541-963-1017

Union County Office of the District Attorney
Victim Assistance Program

541-963-1007

Regional Resources

Legal Aid Services of Oregon: Pendleton, OR

541-276-6685
www.oregonlawhelp.org

Domestic Violence Services: Pendleton, OR

Hotline 800-833-1161

Mayday Inc: Baker City, OR

541-523-9472

YWCA: Walla Walla, WA

509-529-9922

Safe Harbors: Enterprise, OR

541-426-6565

Oregon Attorney General’s Sexual Assault Task Force

503-990-6541

Oregon Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence

503-230-1951

National Resources

National Domestic Violence Hotline

800-799-7233

Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network

24 Hour National Hotline:
800-656-4673